Even now, at the end of the twentieth century, many still have difficulty standing up and saying, "I am the parent of a gay child". something to Tell You recounts the stories of families whose lives have been touched by the discovery that a child is lesbian or gay -- how it affects and influences people's perceptions of their children and even changes the self-image of parents themselves. Focusing on fifty average families -- not people seen in clinics or therapy -- the authors found a consistent pattern of change: first negative, then positive. Sometimes the news led parents and siblings to form stronger bonds with the child, with each other, and with other relatives and friends. In many cases, their child's partner and partner's family grew to assume an important role in their own lives. In some cases, parents and siblings discovered new meaning in their lives through speaking out or joining PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) and becoming part of the struggle for lesbian and gay rights. The authors found that families committed to staying together are typically able to overcome the powerful obstacles imposed by society. something to Tell You also shows the lasting and sometimes tragic consequences for families who falter in the process of integration. Unwilling to accept their child's sexuality, some parents sought to blame each other, and all too often their own relationships unraveled as a result. Others who failed to tell close friends sometimes lost those friends through keeping secrets. Parents who neglected to form bonds with their child's partner fostered climates of alienation that persisted for years.
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Author: Herdt, Gilbert H.
Publisher: Columbia University Press
Illustration: N
Language: ENG
Title: Something to Tell You: The Road Families Travel When a Child is Gay
Pages: 00000 (MicrosoftReader.lit) / 00192 (Encrypted PDF)
On Sale: 2001-06-01
SKU-13/ISBN: 9780231104388
Lib Category: Parents of gays
Lib Category: Gay youth
Category: Social Science : Gay Studies
Category: Social Science : Lesbian Studies
Category: Family & Relationships : Parenting - General